Journal of the International Chamber of Justice – Volume 1 Issue 10 January 19, 2009

MIND-SKILLS TRAINING

When my niece was a young science student and explaining to me the school lesson I was trying to teach her I asked her to help me with an science experiment about knowing things and she agreed.

I asked her to take a glass and fill it up with water from the faucet.  She did it and she wrote down those first steps of the experiment to set the ideas firmly.  Then for the next step I ask her to fill up the glass.

She started running water into the now overflowing glass and I asked her what she was doing?  She said she was doing what I said to do but I stopped her and pointed out that all the water was running down the drain, and none was staying in the glass and so she was not filling up the glass.

She didn’t understand, and so I asked her to write down as the next step of the experiment to pour some of the water out of the glass, and then fill up the glass.

Knowing Hurts Us

As we argued briefly among ourselves about the meaning of the terms, I think she came to see that knowing is like that full glass.  You can’t put more water into an already full glass.  You can’t put more information into your mind if you think you already know.

I’ve found that many people ‘already know’ so they don’t need to listen, they stay stuck within the internal dramas of their own mind and like my aunts, uncles and older sisters they simply project onto others the roles they see happening.  The dialogues they hear are mostly their own mind, reading between the lines of what people say.

When we occasionally fall out of that somewhat comfortable place of knowing whats going to happen next and are abruptly taken out of our mind to confront reality, we immediately begin to weave a new drama to explain what just happened.  As soon as we can we climb back in & live comfortably and entirely in our mind’s drama.

My Mind, what is it?

The  Mind, your mind is a product of multiple body-organs and it organizes experience for your body in a way which reacts instantly, seemingly without thought, suddenly knowing what just happened.

Literally the world you live in is what you make of it with your mental skills organizing what you just saw, heard, felt, or thought into a coherent viewpoint, explaining to yourself what it all meant.  You decide what it means & you then you act on that basis.

This is what everybody’s mind does.  You make it up each moment of each day, or like your bed, you don’t make it up, you leave your mind untidy.  We develop preferences.

Our mind creates our experience in concert with those who surround our personal space, all of our minds mutually creating our shared experience.  It only takes one mind to change the experience of millions of others.

Its well known now that an untidy or cluttered space will cause an anxiety reaction among those occupying the space but no thought seems to be given to untidy and cluttered minds and the effects on the individual, their family, clan, tribe, society and nation.

Now knowledge about the Mind no longer need be the province of doctors, psychiatrist and psychologist or other professionals from which we must seek healing for something that does not ail us.  Today, that knowledge is unlocked and you can have it for free.

EXPERIENCE DEFINED

Experience is really two things.  Experience is 1) what just physically happened to you, but it is also at the same time 2) what your mind just made of it.  This is why many people who see what they think to be the same thing all see a different thing entirely.

Your Body/Mind organizes whatever your  experience may be and adds from memory whatever significance of the experience is needed for you to make sense of it.  Only you write the meaning that your minds eye sees.

We meet the power you are endowed with.  For every single thing you experience you automatically make two very important choices that you could control.  1) What do you notice, and 2) what change does that trigger in you?

You can notice something else, or you can change your triggers around and everything you know about that single experience will change in that instant.  Your experience changes as your mind changes.

If you don’t like your experience, change your mind

Sounds foolish, but opportunities and factors that were invisible spring out of nowhere when you are willing to try this the first time.  If you change your point of view, if even for a moment, new pathways of thought and contemplation open up and there is no telling where that can lead your mind.

Who decides what it all means?  You do.  For example, you need not make a threat out of a gesture of hello from a stranger.  You can find new meanings and new opportunities as you learn to use your mind deliberately creating an improved experience for yourself.

P.O.V. POINT OF VIEW

An important thing to learn about how your mind does its work is illustrated by looking at a simple transaction and notice how switching POV completely changes the significance we give elements within the experience.

Thinking you understanding your friend’s POV you confront, tease or go along  depending on your mood or how important both the friend and the issue is to you.

When their feelings get hurt, you might choose to see things from their perspective and at least explain yourself better if not apologize for unintended injuries; or not.

Ignoring or refusing to consider another’s point of view doesn’t let you off the hook.  You still own the consequences regardless a choice to ignore your impact.

Point of view is a position, has a direction it is looking and territory it is defending.  Change the direction you look, you shift your POV.

The Mind’s tool box

Function is my short-hand for a fundamental mind tool.  What function is served, what does it DO, what gets done as a result of a ritual, a friend’s comment or a phone call?

Whatever you seek to understand, the function it is serving is valuable information and can help you get what you want, or help someone else, or prevent a thing if that is what you’ve come to desire.

Function has a POV as well.  A young man mowing the grass for pay gets the grass cut and money in his pocket.  For the neighbor, the  chore was done in time for the planned cookout and he didn’t have to miss the playoff game.  Different functions were served all at once and a kind of marketplace of minds develops where we can barter to meet our own needs in exchange with others.

 

Life-Skill Training

 

Life-Skills are related to Mind-Skills but serve a much more practical day to day purpose.  Life-Skills are those elements of day to day life that can look like part of the terrain, there without your active act of creating it.

Our children see ‘home’ and all that entails while us adults who moved all that crap in see a building we’ve adapted and the day to day process that creates the psycho-social thing we all call ‘home.’

Life-Skills are those minimal things we must do to create such a home to have a relatively prosperous and happy life.   Broadly, life-skills help you to know how to open a bank account, pay bills month after month, clean & plunge a toilet or deal with a plumber’s large repair bill.

We envision a free training and counseling program to teach a course on Mind-skills and Life-skills, available on line and eventually on site at our brick and mortar location.

Together men and women of good will can come together, learn to work more with and less against each other.  We can teach others how as we do it ourselves. – – rgj 1.19.08

© Published by The International Chamber of Justice, 65 Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. Ave, St. Augustine, Florida, USA 32084  COB and CEO Roger G. Jolley  chamberofjustice.com

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